You know when you talk to older couples who, you know, have been in love for thirty or forty or fifty years, all right? It’s always the guy who says, “I knew.” –Bones.
Alright, let’s discuss something, shall we? I genuinely want to know people’s thoughts ––
I’ve been recently bitten by the Captain Swan bug, and among the reasons why some find that ship problematic, is his ‘relentless,’ pursuit of her.
The flirting, the courting, woo-ing – whatever it is you want to call it.
And, she doesn’t give in, right away, she fights it.
Their argument being, that means she’s clearly, just not interested?
And this trope nothing new for T.V.
Castle, Psych, Bones, being the other examples that immediately come to mind.
But, see here’s the thing: they all were always interested!
For a variety of reasons, the women pushed the guy away at first––
Kate’s “wall,” and her mother’s case,
Juliet thinking Shawn’s a playboy, not truly serious about her.
Brennan, being scared/not believing in love.
In this case, Emma’s abandonment issues.
But the guy knows what’s there…Knows that if she were to just let herself be happy, take a leap of faith, and dive in – that they’d be amazing.
If, for ONE second, any of these characters actually believed that it was a lost cause? They’d let go.
It’s a good thing that they didn’t, that they fought for their happy ending, because,
Castle and Beckett? Engaged.
Shawn and Juliet? Engaged.
Booth and Brennan? Married.
So, personally – no, I don’t think the Once writers are showing us how Emma’s feelings, “don’t matter,” and how she’s pushing him away at every turn because she doesn’t want him.
Or that it’s “creepy,” or stalker–ish, in ANY of these scenarios.
Is it overplayed? Maybe.
But there’s a difference between, not giving up, and helping someone you love open up to you, and forcing your feelings where they’re not wanted.